How to become a better conversational architect…
Speak from a position of LOVE & LOYALTY
Don’t lose your grip on Love and Loyalty. Tie them around your neck; carve their initials on your heart. [Proverbs 3:3]
You can nip a lot in the bud when it comes to how we speak to others but never let go of love & loyalty. Everything we say & do should be flavoured with love. You may not always agree with everything but you can still demonstrate love & loyalty to the bigger cause in the way that you speak.
The thing with love & loyalty is that they are the opposite of the selfishness that can so easily colour our conversations.
So here’s the challenge…how loyal are you? How faithful to the cause? How supportive are you of the vision? In your words…do they match up with your actions.
If I speak with human eloquence and angelic ecstasy but don’t love, I’m nothing but the creaking of a rusty gate. (or a loud noise) [1 Corinthians 13:1]
Words kill, words give life; they’re either poison or fruit – you choose. [Proverbs 18:21]
Words should be encouraging. It doesn’t mean you don’t speak the truth, instead you speak it with grace. You can still challenge the status quo but do it with an attitude of love & loyalty (faithful adherence to a sovereign/leader – not your church leaders even – how about Jesus)
As John Maxwell says – people don’t care how much you know (or think you know) until they know how much you care. Love & loyalty mean you should care how your words will be received.