Continuing to unpack this idea of being a conversational architect I would encourage you to speak from a position of BEING RESPONSIBLE
Even the Apostle Paul says this is important…
If you choose to speak, you’re also responsible for how and when you speak. [1 Corinthians 14:32]
“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. [Luke 6:43-45]
When we speak or comment we must do it from a position of being responsible. Not just responsible FOR people but responsible TO people. To speak from a position of creating the right culture – building, planting & caring for them. If we are responsible for them then we will try and tell them, fix them, manipulate them. If we are responsible to them then we would always speak wanting them to discover answers for themselves. It is a subtle difference but a difference nonetheless.
This means taking responsibility for what comes out of our mouths, which means taking responsibility for what goes in the heart because that’s what eventually comes out.
Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts [Proverbs 4:23] Being vigilant takes effort, it doesn’t happen by chance.
Be responsible to people by doing the following things…
make the message clear – examine what you will say
focus on the others first – if you are just saying something for the sake of saying something then it might need changing
live out your message – Jesus tells us we will be known by our fruit – become more consistent – be responsible to make your words and actions match up