Reading this book once again and loving the powerfulness and the simplicity of the ideas Dale Carnegie promotes that can help us in our relationship with others.

Yet, despite their simplicity it’s a shame that an awful lot of people just ignore them.

We can be too quick to complain, too quick to criticise, too quick to condemn. We make circumstances about ourselves, our emotions kick in and out natural defensiveness comes to the fore. We don’t always like taking responsibility for the way things have gone or the responsibility to handle everything and make some necessary changes ourselves. After all, it’s never our fault.

Reminded that we all know people that we want to change, regulate and improve. However, the most important person to start with is the one we see in the mirror every day. I have to stop wanting everyone else to change while being unwilling to do so myself.

Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbour’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean [Confucious]

More importantly for me are the words of Jesus ~ ‘Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks’.

This is a good reminder for me. I don’t always get it right but I’m working on it. How about you?

2 thoughts on “How to Win Friends & Influence People

  1. I’ve read Dale Carnegie more than once and I can’t get enough. It’s a staple audiobook that I listen to whenever I need a reminder. I truly believe that while HTWFIP is one of the most powerful books to ever to be published, it’s theories are ones we learning growing up. Be kind. Listen. Respect others. Take responsibility. Focus on those around you more than you focus on yourself. I was raised by the ideas Dale Carnegie teaches, simply because my mother is a relationship builder by nature. Although, you’re not alone. I find it’s easy to lose sight of these principles in our everyday life. We know the rules, but we often get caught up in the details and forget about the big picture. Life, and success really, is all about building relationships. It’s a deceivingly simple phrase that hides a complex theory behind it. One that takes practice and a solid effort, but the payoff is priceless. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this post! Best of luck in your efforts – keep up the good work 🙂

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