Reading this book once again and loving the powerfulness and the simplicity of the ideas Dale Carnegie promotes that can help us in our relationship with others.
Yet, despite their simplicity it’s a shame that an awful lot of people just ignore them.
We can be too quick to complain, too quick to criticise, too quick to condemn. We make circumstances about ourselves, our emotions kick in and out natural defensiveness comes to the fore. We don’t always like taking responsibility for the way things have gone or the responsibility to handle everything and make some necessary changes ourselves. After all, it’s never our fault.
Reminded that we all know people that we want to change, regulate and improve. However, the most important person to start with is the one we see in the mirror every day. I have to stop wanting everyone else to change while being unwilling to do so myself.
Don’t complain about the snow on your neighbour’s roof when your own doorstep is unclean [Confucious]
More importantly for me are the words of Jesus ~ ‘Out of the overflow of the heart, the mouth speaks’.
This is a good reminder for me. I don’t always get it right but I’m working on it. How about you?