As part of our current series at Xcel Church we talked about what every man should be willing to do. In light of that, here are 5 things that are important to me as a Christian husband that I thought I would share with you…
Love God wholeheartedly. Wherever the rest of the family is with God, it’s often a reflection of where the man is. If you say you love God, then love God. Identify with Jesus and don’t be ashamed or embarrassed by that. Have a willingness to talk about Jesus and your love for Him. Then, let your decisions be a reflection of this. Be in church. Serve. Do something.
Be a spiritual leader. This is not about being in full time ministry. Plain and simply, this is about men being the spiritual leader they were created to be. Yes, marriage is a partnership. I am not talking about bossing others around or being manipulative. Just that as a man, take responsibility for the spiritual welfare of your home. If you are not happy with the atmosphere of your home, your marriage, your family then take an honest look at yourself, get with God and let the Holy Spirit change you. Heard it said once that to change the marriage, you change the man. Come on men, let’s be willing to change if needed.
Pray for your wife and your kids. Honesty time ~ do you actually pray for your wife (or the wife you haven’t met yet if you are single)? Do you pray for anything? Top of my list, every day, I pray for my wife & my 3 daughters. You cannot change your spouse or your kids. Stop looking for the opt out. Instead, pray. Intercede for them and let God be about the changing.
Love your wife like Christ loves the Church. This always scared me. Jesus died for His bride. He sacrificed and gave himself for the church. He never gives up on the Church. Now, He is praying for us. That’s some powerful display of love right there. I need to up my game so that my wife knows that she is the apple of my eye and that I am here to serve her as a man of God in her world.
Work hard. Whether you are employed or not, be someone who has a good work ethic. Laziness is not attractive. It’s not a sexist thing to say but some blokes need to ‘man up’ and start providing for the family. I know we can’t all work but if you can then I think you should. Do something. Work makes you feel valued, even when it’s unpaid. When you feel valued, you carry yourself differently. When you carry yourself differently it influences those closest to you.
What do you think?
Be the man. Be the leader God needs you to be. Whether married, want to be married or happy being single, being a man that God can use is the same. Don’t spend too much of life messing about and therefore missing out on living the adventure God gives to those who willingly step up and let Him know they are willing to ‘be the man’.