Be a Conversational Architect [3]

Continuing to unpack this idea of being a conversational architect I would encourage you to speak from a position of BEING RESPONSIBLE

Even the Apostle Paul says this is important…
If you choose to speak, you’re also responsible for how and when you speak. [1 Corinthians 14:32]

“No good tree bears bad fruit, nor does a bad tree bear good fruit. Each tree is recognized by its own fruit. People do not pick figs from thornbushes, or grapes from briers. The good man brings good things out of the good stored up in his heart, and the evil man brings evil things out of the evil stored up in his heart. For out of the overflow of his heart his mouth speaks. [Luke 6:43-45]

When we speak or comment we must do it from a position of being responsible. Not just responsible FOR people but responsible TO people. To speak from a position of creating the right culture – building, planting & caring for them. If we are responsible for them then we will try and tell them, fix them, manipulate them. If we are responsible to them then we would always speak wanting them to discover answers for themselves. It is a subtle difference but a difference nonetheless.

This means taking responsibility for what comes out of our mouths, which means taking responsibility for what goes in the heart because that’s what eventually comes out.

Keep vigilant watch over your heart; that’s where life starts [Proverbs 4:23] Being vigilant takes effort, it doesn’t happen by chance.

Be responsible to people by doing the following things…
make the message clear – examine what you will say
focus on the others first – if you are just saying something for the sake of saying something then it might need changing
live out your message – Jesus tells us we will be known by our fruit – become more consistent – be responsible to make your words and actions match up

Be a Conversational Architect [1]
Be a Conversational Architect [2]

Book Review: No Perfect People Allowed by John Burke

Some books come across your path at just the right timer and this is definitely one of those books. As someone who holds the role of Service Pastor for Xcel Darlington, how to connect, create growth and love people has taken on a new level of meaning. This book then was very challenging and thought-provoking.

Occasionally you read statements and the simplicity of what you are reading is like ‘WOW’. Taking on board the real-life stories just adds the right dimension, proving a convincing point.

Challenging thoughts: My focus needs to change!
‘Our responsibility is not to make people grow or change. Our task (as Church leaders) is to create the right soil, a rich healthy environment, in which people can grow up in faith…’ ‘God is responsible for the growth, for changed hearts, but the soil is the responsibilty of the leader and Christ-followers who make up the Church.’

To give someone the chance to grow spiritually, they must be given the right food. That’s one of the roles of being their Pastor. That’s a continuous challenge.

To be honest I enjoyed the journey that John Burke took me on through this book – helping to build a picture of what it takes to reach the emerging generation. Building trust, answering the right questions, creating an environment of acceptance and a culture of growth. The chapter on creating a culture of family was read at just the right time, reminding me that life in Church is about people, not about programmes. Being part of the family can help change someones life.

Difficult to express how this book impacted me, except to say ‘Thanks’ to the author for putting pen to paper and being ready to share honestly what it takes to grow a life-changing, hope bringing church in the 21st Century. I would recommend this to Pastors and Church leaders. Get your copy here