Be Willing to Learn

To lead well in life is to be willing to learn. It is to acknowledge that we don’t know everything, that we are not always right and that every day there are opportunities for learning. 

After all, we spend most of our life faced with multiple challenges and situations, things that demand our attention and ability to make decisions. To do this and lead ourselves well through them involves a continuous willingness to learn. 

Learn from our mistakes. Don’t just give up. Instead ask yourself what can I learn from this experience?

Learn from other people. Older and younger. Glean wisdom from all sorts of people. 

Learn deliberately through reading books or listening to podcasts. On all sorts of things but especially in those areas we need some extra wisdom. 

Learn that failure doesn’t have to be fatal. It is a natural part of the journey. We have to learn how to fail forward. 

Learn that just because it’s tough doesn’t mean it’s wrong. Just because it’s easier doesn’t make it right either. Not everything in life will go the way we want it to or expect it to. 

Learn to trust God in everything. Often the toughest one of them all but for those of us with faith in God, probably the most important. 

Learn in all aspects of life but especially in regard to handling money, dealing with people, your own emotional intelligence and how to make difficult decisions. 

How well we learn will have an impact on how we can lead well in life. If we struggle to lead ourselves well, then our ability to lead others is going to be limited. 

What learning would you add to this list?

Xcel Darlington: Review

This morning was one of those frustrating mornings. Let me explain myself…

Did a leadership session before. Early start but great discussion: what are the challenges that leaders face?

The service was amazing. Frustrating because numbers were down…BUT…there was different feel to the atmosphere in the meeting this morning. The worship team did a great job…you could really sense God in the building. Plus…good to see different people being stretched in taking a leading role.

God was definitely doing something behind the scenes in peoples lives.

The message was a simple one…we must be dispensers of MERCY not MISERY. There was subtle difference in how Jesus dealt with people…He focused on the person not what the person was doing, focused on the sinner not the sin.

The challenge for us is to do the same. To create a place where anyone can come, feel at home, receive mercy. It doesn’t matter if someone’s walk isn’t perfect, after all…we are all a work-in-progress.

Xcel Darlington next week is Easter Sunday. Let’s fill that building with everyone we know. That way the gospel can be preached and people’s lives can be changed. It’s gonna be a great week and next Sunday is going to be incredible!! Sorry to keep going on like this…I am just excited about what God is doing and expectant for the breakthrough.

Keeping the Main Thing the Main Thing…Day 26

I think it was Stephen Covey who articulated this. It is such a truth that I think I am now getting a real grasp of. Problem is that it’s a really easy statement to make but a really hard one to keep. So many things do battle for my time and attention, it can be difficult to stay strong on the main thing.

Yesterday I posted about how seeking God is great but that the rewards come by working wholeheartedly. That’s when we prosper.

Then I read the post by Mark Batterson – read it here. This part in particular resonates strongly with me…what we need to do is refocus on doing the rights things: meditate on God’s word, pray through, obey the promptings of the Holy Spirit, genuinely love people. And when you do the right things, everything takes care of itself. This is exactly where I am at right now. I am so excited about what God is doing, would love to see more people at Xcel Darlington and can easily get caught up in the numbers game but just know that if we keep doing the right things God will honour that and we will prosper.

If I was becoming obsessed with numbers it was only because my heart is to reach people, make an impact in Darlington and see lives transformed as they discover the reality of living life the way God created it to be lived. Listen to me – making excuses.

I recognise that I must keep praying, meditating, believing God as well as the strategy, the study and the thinking side of Church. You cannot do one without the other but as Bill Hybels says…when leadership and discipleship collide (the process of growing people under Gods grace) always err on the side of what’s needed for discipleship.

We plant, we water…but God brings the increase. Bring it on. This Sunday is going to be incredible Xcel Darlington.

Seek God…Work Wholeheartedly [Day 25]

Reading the Bible is great. Loads of familiar friends and then the occasional verse that seems to jump out from nowhere. 2 Chronicles 31 tells us about King Hezekiah. He did right in the sight of the Lord. One phrase describing how he did life intrigued me as well as encouraging me that maybe I’m doing the right things in my desire for breakthrough…

v21
‘In everything that he undertook in the service of God’s temple and in obedience to the law and commands, he sought his God and worked wholeheartedly. And so he prospered.’

Prosper=seek God+work wholeheartedly

To be wholehearted toward something is to show unconditional commitment, unstinting devotion, or unreserved enthusiasm. In other words ‘GIVE IT ALL YOU’VE GOT!!’

On reflection, until fairly recently I probably did this…seek God but not work, or alternatively work but not seek God. It’s encouraging to see that it’s as a combination results are produced. Having made a statement of faith on Sunday at Xcel Darlington about seeing an increase in numbers throughout MASSIVE MARCH I am more determined than ever to SEEK GOD + WORK WHOLEHEARTEDLY so that Xcel Darlington will prosper.

How about you? Ever failed in this equation? Are you giving it all you’ve got?